How to Build a Better Relationship Using Books

Two individuals meet for the first time and fall in love. They start a friendship which then takes the form of a relationship. Building a relationship is easy but maintaining is difficult for a couple.

Couples try to keep the spark in their relationship alive by doing several activities that both of them enjoy. These can be reading, doing adventure sports, singing, dancing etc. These activities become pleasurable for the couple and they unwind and relax together.

In today’s fast-paced life, it is quite difficult for couples to maintain the same bond in their relationships that they have at first. That’s why many couples decide to break up when the relationship goes to a strained level.

But, some couples are able to maintain a healthy relationship because they understand each other’s habits very well.

So, how can we maintain a healthy relationship? Let’s take a look at how we can do so.

1. First and foremost, try to keep your expectations realistic. When you meet a boy/girl for the first time, you may not get everything in the single person that you are looking for. So, be understanding and accept each other as they are and don’t ask them to change themselves for you.

2. Secondly, start talking with your special someone. By being an active communicator and listener, you will be able to gain more information about the next person and they can get the same from you. Take the time, genuinely listen, ask questions and share information with each other so that you can maintain a healthy relationship in the future.

3. Try to be flexible if your partner is not interested in your likes and wants to have another particular thing.

4. From time to time, you should be able to chill and relax privately without disturbing each other.

5. For relationships to grow and be healthy for life, be always dependable for your partner by completing all the given tasks on time and taking responsibility for certain mistakes that you may have committed unknowingly.

6. We all know that fights occur at some stage or point in any relationship. But, that doesn’t mean that you have to immediately break up with each other. Try and talk out the conflicts with an open and relaxed mind with each other and ultimately a middle path will form on which both of you can walk happily.

7. Try to be as affectionate and warm a person as you can to your partner so they don’t feel left out at any stage.

8. Have a healthy balance in your relationship as you cannot meet every need of your partner but you can make it satisfying for them. Plan a day outdoors or involve yourselves in other activities that both of you love.

9.  Meeting with people is a process. Finding the right person to be you, your life partner, is a time-taking task but totally worth it. Once you find your perfect match, don’t let go of them. But also be wary that they are genuinely interested in you and want to have a long-term commitment.

10. And finally, be authentic to your partner. Share your originality and your personality traits with him/her. In this way, you don’t have to pretend to be someone else and just enjoy yourself along with your partner.

So, these are some of the tips that you can follow to have a well-balanced and healthy relationship.

Let’s now take a look at some books that can help to build better relationships between two people.

Top Books to Build Healthy Relationships

1. The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work by Eli J. Finkel- This is a really good book if you are looking to maintain your relationships for a lifetime. It has covered the history of relationships from 1620 to the present time. It has got the stamp of approval from many psychologists and other authors who have termed it the best book to read on relationships.

2. The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman- This one is a very practical step-by-step guide by Chapman that tells couples what language their partner is speaking to them and has divided them into five sections which are affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time and physical touch. This allows the other partner to communicate effectively once they know the proper language.

3. Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski- Nagoski is a women’s sexuality instructor by profession and has written this wonderful book in which she explores why and how women’s sexuality works, based on scientific knowledge, brain science and research.

4. Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Dr Sue Johnson- This book by Johnson explores the three stages of relationships and how best both partners can weather them. Dr Johnson is a clinical psychologist who has developed Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in which the therapist and clients examine the patterns of the couple’s relationship and then take steps to create a secure bond and develop a high level of trust so that the relationship can be steered in a new direction.

So, these are the top four books that can help greatly to develop a strong and loving bond between you and your partner when starting out on your newly-formed relationship. Give these books a try and incorporate some of their principles into your daily life and you will realise how easy it is to maintain a loving bond that lasts forever.